Tony Alarcon was surprised to receive a call from his daughter’s school that afternoon. When he was told the reasoning, he had no words. He was not going to let this go and decided to take action.
A Normal Day
The day began like any other hot day. the sun was shining and the weather was reaching 90 degrees. Demetra Alarcon made sure to wear clothing that was appropriate for the weather since it was so gross outside!
No School Uniform
Demetra attended Raymond J. Fisher middle school, and it had no specific uniform. In fact, students were free to wear what they wanted to school, with some minor rules dictating what was appropriate.
Tony Alarcon is Demetra’s father. He works as a real estate agent and investment banker, thus is well versed on the ins and outs of fighting for what he wants. He does stand back in the face of injustice and he is a strong believer in confrontation. Specifically, in instances that involve his daughter.
This day could have been like any other if it wasn’t before the unexpected turn that took place. Demetra was mortified in class when the teacher called her out. While she was not the first student to be called upon and spoken to, she did not understand what she did wrong.
She was unaware that a blue romper that she threw on that morning would cause her so many problems at school. To her knowledge, her outfit was appropriate for school. If it weren’t her father would have made a comment.
A Huge Clash
Demetra had nothing but good intentions. She wanted a cute but simple outfit to wear. The weather was extremely hot and she wanted to stay cool. However, she could have never foreseen a hectic scene between her father and the school.
Such A Fuss
After one night, her outfit choice was the talked about the topic. Before she knew it, the media was covering the story and the public was involved. The question that still remained was what made her outfit so controversial, and not the other girls at school?
Demetra definitely did not expect such a fuss over her outfit, but what happened was far worse. Why were they blaming a young girl for wearing a comfortable romper on a hot day? She did not commit a crime.
The scorching sun made a hard day, even worse. Demetra was not prepared for what was coming. The teacher singled her out in front of the whole class and announced that her outfit choice was not suitable for school.
Principal Gets Involved
If singling her out was not enough, Demetra was then sent to the principal’s office for her attire. The principal immediately called her father and requesting that he come down to the school to sort things out. Little did he know that he was about to start a war with one angered father.
A Choice To Be Made
Her school principal explained to Tony that his daughter was not allowed at school. He gave him the choice to bring a new outfit to wear or to take her home right away. Tony couldn’t believe this phone conversation.
Tony did not fight, yet, and came to bring his daughter an extra outfit to wear. He searched through her closet and chose a pair of shorts and a tank top, something he thought was completely acceptable.
The Battle Is On
After she changed her outfit, she returned to the office for approval. There, she waited her father and principal. Unfortunately, she was still told that what she was wearing was not school appropriate. At this point, her father was getting infuriated.
The whole scenario angered Tony and was determined to get an explanation. He even instructed his daughter to bend over and show how appropriate her shorts actually were. He was determined to find out why exactly the school was attacking his daughter.
Protecting His Daughter
He was sure that there was more to the story and he wanted to know the full truth. He would not stop until the school confessed why they actually called his daughter out and humiliated her. He had his own speculations, but he wasn’t quick to give in to them.
He Wasn’t Satisfied
The principal told Tony that the reason behind her being singled out was simply because her outfit did not pass the school’s “fingertip test.” Although the outfit may have seemed modest enough, in technical terms it was not allowed. Tony was not buying this.
After hearing this silly rule, Tony was growing more frustrated. He noticed the same exact types of clothing on other girls, even that same morning. He couldn’t understand why only his daughter was getting reprimanded for something all the other students were doing as well.
The Fingertip Test
What exactly is the “fingertip test?” Well, how it works is like this: the student sends up straight with her arms at her side and if her tips pass the bottom of her shorts, then that means they are simply too short. Turns out Demetra did it and her shorts were just slightly above her fingertips. It was the smallest difference and he was not going to let this happen to his daughter.
Tony was not letting this go until he got to the truth. Finally, the administrator admitted that only Demetra was called out and it was because of the other boys in her class. Tony was having difficulty processing this and asked her to repeat herself. He was completely blown away.
Within seconds the principal regretted what she said. Now Tony knew what really happened and there was no possibility of letting it go. The school made it out to be that Demetra and her clothing were the problems. In reality, it was she was distracting for the young boys.
Tony sat directly across from her school administrator with a shocked look on his face. He thought this has to be a joke. He was already angry that his daughter was blamed and humiliated, but now he knew exactly why and he was ready to fight back.
He saw the embarrassment and sadness in his daughter’s eyes and there was no stopping him. The principal was completely out of line and Tony needed to think clearly about how he could make this whole situation right. Nobody messes with his daughter.
The principal offered them one way out. The choice was either to put on leggings or not go back to class. It was completely unfair and Tony was about to give them a piece of his mind. Why was she to blame and forced to change because of immature boys?
Demetra made a very valid point that the school dress code was only strict with the girls but not the boys. She felt like this was extremely sexist. Although there was a rule in class that stated no hats allowed, the boys would frequently dismiss this rule
Tony was doing his best to keep everything together and remain calm. However, this was more difficult than you may think. He was fed up seeing other students breaking the rules and being told nothing, especially the boys.
The school had set a standard that was almost impossible to fit. They expected girls to wear jeans or leggings on a boiling day. They needed to adjust their rules in weather conditions like this. These girls were not allowed to be comfortable in the humidity just because of the boys.
Tony reacted by asking Demetra’s friends their opinions on the dress code. They all responded with the same answer. It was unfair and the system was in need of correction. The girls had to endure the heat so that the boys could focus. Makes sense!
Involving The Media
After this Tony took it one step further and consulted media. He was angry and thought the whole world should hear about this unjust dress code. More so, he wanted the school to pay foembarassing his daughter. He was featured on Today and several other local news channels.
The media responded to Tony’s anger with a question. “What would your solution to the dress code be?” However, Tony felt that this was something that should be left up to the parents, as it was their children and their decision to make.
In his plan, Tony recommended adjustments to the school’s dress code. He suggested, no clothes that show underwear, no stomachs shown, and no spaghetti straps. Little did he know, he was touching on the start to a much larger issue.
Tony had plenty of supporters, but he also had people against him. This arguement was starting to touch on the bigger issue of body image and female objectification. Others argued that if teenagers could wear anything they wanted then the whole school system would be in chaos.
In response to Tony’s accusations, the school said the dress code was only meant to establish guidelines. Their aim was to have ‘reasonable decorum’ among all their students. It seems like this wasn’t the only case involving unfair school dress code rules, but we hope justice will be served soon.
There are actually several other stories where the same type of situation occured regarding school dress code. Clare had a very similar incident when the school pointed her out for her prom dress. The young teen was excited and prepared for a night highschool students wait for.
The Perfect Dress
This 17 year old girl was waiting for her special prom night with her boyfriend. They made sure to be ready and bought their tickets fair in advance. She spent what felt like years, searching for the perfect dress and finally found it. The dress was silver and covered in sparkles, everything she wanted and more.
The Dreaded Fingertip Test
She stumbled upon the dress out of nowehere and she was stunned to see it was also within her budget. It was love at first sight. Although she loved the dress and almost nothing could stop her from buying it, there was on important test it had to pass. A test that you are probably familiar with, the fingertip test. Clare stood straight, with her arms relaxed and proceeded with the ultimate test. She hoped more than anything it would pass.
Prom Dress Code
The information the prom invitation stated the attire as semi-formal, but noted the importance of the fingertip rule. Clare’s new just made it and she couldn’t be more excited. Unfortunately, she was unaware how troublesome this dress was actually going to be for her.
It Was Time
The night had arrived and Clare was ready for the best night of her life. She was nervous her dress would be too short so she did the test one final time. This time the dress was close to not passing. She was excited to go dance and had no expectation for what would really go down.
Clare was getting ready to go when she put on heels to guaratee the dress was okay. The bottom was very close to her fingertips and it was clear that it would ride up when she would dance, so it was something she had to keep her eye on.
She approached the Prom, which was held at the local Methodist church, and was immediately reprimanded. Although she had been so cautious, one of the prom managers said that her dress was far too short. Clare responded by asking what the rule was.
Looks Can Be Deceiving
The organizer who confronted her was named Ann Duncan and she explain to Clare the fingertip rule. This was exactly what Clare was expecting. She told Ann that her dress actually did meet the criteria and it did not look like it because of her long legs.
Unfortunately, Ann protested that the dress was far too short and inapropriate for teh dress code. There was no stopping Clare and she actually did the finger tip test for her. Ann had no option but to allow Clare inside the dance.
Clare was walking through the dance when she payed attention to the other girls’ dresses. She noticed most were even shorter than her. All she could do was simply laugh at how pathetic the situation was. She was ready to party before she noticed something occuring above her.
Many things about the dance were off. For starters there were more adults at the dance than the past. What was even more uncomfortable were the fathers staring down at the girls from the balcony above. The girls at the dance started to feel strange being at the dance.
This makes sense. The girls felt off about the number of parents but also the men watching every step. In there eyes, the male chaperones were there to watch the girls in short dresses and high heels.
Getting Called Again
A few minutes into the dance, Clare immediately noticed Ann approaching her. She took her off the dance floor and explained that male chaperones were commenting on her dress and provacative dance moves. More specifically she blamed her for the other boys “impure thoughts.”
In other words, she was telling Clare ‘she asked for it’. This was something that should never be said to a young girl. All she did was wear a beautiful dress, in no way was she to blame. How was she responsible for the gross thoughts of the other boys and fathers at the dance.
Enough Is Enough
Clare protested and admitted that she had not even been on the dance floor. Her friends confirmed her claim. She then proceeded to show how her dress really fit the fingertip test. However, Mrs. Duncan was not interested in hearing when Clare had to say. At that moment, her boyfriend James got involved.
A United Front
Clare and her boyfriend were mortified by such an accusation. Their entire friend group supported them and said if they were getting kicked out then they would also leave. In addition, every ticket would need to be refunded.
Getting her money back was the last thing Clare cared about. She refused to let this incident go and her boyfriend James requested to speak with the manager of the prom. This made Mrs. Duncan infuriated and he requested another chaperone.
Clare was waiting and imagining this night for so long and one difficult chaperone managed to completely ruin it. They were kicked out of the prom as if they had committed a terrible crime. She was devastated and was kicked out simply because she grabbed attention.