This bride-to-be wasn’t unlike many brides in the fact that she did not have a close relationship with her future mother-in-law. Most of the time the two are able to put their differences aside for the sake of the wedding, but this was not the case here. What did this bride find her fiance’s mother doing that left her not knowing how to react?
Not Getting Along
Tracey went on Reddit to express her frustrations. She told everyone about what she went through months before her big day. She started it off by saying that she did not get along that well with Gina, her fiance’s mom.
She Was Caught
Whenever they got into arguments, she tried her best to be the bigger person. However, what Gina did this time was simply unforgivable. Wait until you hear what she was caught doing with the wedding dress of this bride!
Made For Each Other
Now, we all know just how important it is to have a healthy and happy relationship with the in-laws. Tracey hoped that this would be the case. It became an even bigger deal after Rick finally proposed to her!
Help From Family & Friends
Now, it is no secret that weddings have to be planned with great care. This is why it can lead to such a stressful time. The best case scenario would be to have friends and family around to help you out.
Not How They Expected
If you take a look at the social media photos of Rick and Tracey, you will probably think that they look like a great couple. And they were! The two of them were ready to start a life together when it happened…
Her Couture Wedding Dress
The final straw for Tracey has something to do with her wedding dress. Yes, the whole story revolves around her couture wedding gown. It was only natural for her to want the best wedding dress, right?
She Went Big
She went all out for her wedding dress and bought one from couture atelier Galia Lahav. Keep in mind that the likes of Beyonce bought their own wedding gowns here! It cost her a total of $11,000. Whoa.
The Perfect Day
While it sounds like a huge sum of money, a lot of brides think that it is worth it. After all, this is the biggest day of their life so far! Some even get loans and mortgages just to finance their dream dress.
A Destination Wedding
There are couples who dream of getting married right in their hometown or place of residence. For Rick and Tracey, they wanted to marry in Colombia. In her post, she said, “We’re planning to be married in December in Colombia and of course, I’m beyond pumped.”
She Wasn’t Happy
“It’s going to be a destination wedding for us, and I was very happy that I was able to talk him into having one,” she went on. However, someone did not like the idea as much as the two of them did.
She Did Not Approve
Gina told them just how much she disapproved of this idea of theirs. Tracey has said that Gina did not understand why anyone would want to go and get married somewhere “no one… speaks English.”
Apart from this, she also expressed some of her fears regarding the costs and the security level over there. While her concerns her valid, Tracey did not think that this was the true reason for her disapproval.
They Did Not Get Along
Tracey knew that Gina was going to be against the wedding even if it took place at home. It all boiled down to the fact that they did not get on well. “I always knew that she wasn’t really my biggest fan.”
Didn’t See Eye-To-Eye
“She’s polite and very ‘fake’ friendly,” she further explained. Could it be more than just a matter of compatibility? It looks like there was a big issue that drove a wedge between the two women…
A Territorial Mother
The tension seems to have its roots because of their own dynamic with Rick! For this guy, no other woman is more important than his mother and his fiancée. However, Tracey found their relationship odd.
A Weird Relationship
“She’ll do things like sit on my fiance’s lap, or tuck his hair behind his ear, and cut his food for him,” she let everyone know in her Reddit post. “On one occasion I actually saw her actually feed him….in public.”
Setting Their Boundaries
It was just natural for her to try everything to sort out their relationship before the actual day of the wedding. Tracey discussed the issue with Rick. After this, she noticed that Gina stopped this behavior.
Trying To Ignore Her
After that, the bride made sure to keep Rick’s mother out of the planning for the wedding. However, Tracey also said that “she complains to my fiance behind my back on how she’s being excluded.”
Changing It Up
After Tracey talked to Rick about how she felt regarding Gina’s behavior, he agreed to speak to his mother. We are sure that he felt like he was backed into a corner, but this was important for Tracey.
Maybe Things Will Improve
He ultimately knew that it was important for him to do this for the sake of their future together. “To my fiance’s credit, once I told him that I thought that was beyond weird, it never happened again,” she said.
Leading Up To It
Let us now talk about the day that changed everything for them. It started in a relaxed enough manner. Gina came over to visit their new place. Rick and Tracey were both thrilled her to show her around.
However, Gina clearly did not like the place. She did not even congratulate them and had bad things to say about it. According to the post, the older woman made comments that were just uncalled for.
Bashing Her Ring
Let us hear what the first complaint she had about Tracey. Gina brought up the engagement rick that her son used to propose. As far as the older woman was concerned, there was no need for it to be so fancy.
Tracey informed her that the material was moissanite, so it was not as expensive as a diamond. “She hates my engagement ring,” this bride told everyone through her Reddit post. “It’s far too extravagant and there are CHILDREN STARVING IN AFRICA AND PEOPLE DIE FOR THESE ROCKS (it’s moissanite).”
Complaining About The House
What else did Gina have to complain about? Like the ring, she did not have good things to say about their new house. Tracey told everyone that Gina could not understand why they spent so much on it.
She Won’t Stop
According to Gina, it “is an extravagant display of wealth and just ‘isn’t us.” Still, the younger woman said that it was a “townhouse” that they bought with a discount. That was not the end of it all, however.
Kindly Lose Some Weight
We are sure that you will see why this next one hurt so much. It would have been the last straw for a lot of people. Luckily, Tracey remained calm even when Gina told her to lose some weight before the big day.
Throwing It In Her Face
Tracey did not mess around in her post and said, “I’m getting fat. Need to watch the calories so I can ‘fit into my dress. Future [MIL], meanwhile, is bragging about her diet and how chic and slenderizing her mother of the bride dress is.”
Not The First Time
While Tracey was shocked by all the harsh words, this was not the first time that Gina threw her shade. Rick’s mom sometimes tried to keep in touch with her, but it usually only led to more criticisms of Tracey.
She Can’t Win
It was not hard to see that the future mother-in-law was not all that supportive of the relationship between Rick and Tracey. It was clear that Gina wanted to turn Tracey into a certain type of woman.
Leave Her Alone
Rick was able to notice that things were spiraling out of control between his fiancée and mother. That was why he called for Tracey and ask her to “help him put a bed in the spare guest room together.”
The Moment She Couldn’t Believe
Tracey was glad that he gave her a way out. This way, Gina could not insult her more in the meantime. However, the young woman would soon get the biggest shock of her life around half an hour after this.
Caught In The Act
Tracey had to take a bathroom break, so she entered their bedroom. It was then that she stumbled into the unthinkable. Gina was trying to put on her wedding gown. Tracey narrated, “What do I find but Future MIL struggling to yank my dress over her head BUT WAS FREAKING STUCK.”
She Nearly Fainted
“I blurted out ‘what the heck?!’ and she immediately started stammering ‘Oh my God! OH MY GOD! OH GOD!’” she went on. Is that not the craziest thing you have ever heard? But wait, there is more.
She did not have a lot of time to process just what was going on. Tracey went over to Gina and asked her to get out of her Galia Lahav gown right that instant. The older woman was stuck in her gorgeous dress!
She Had No Choice But To Help
“At that point my number one concern was her tearing the sheer backing of my dress so I rushed over to help her,” explained Tracey. What could have possibly happened between them after this moment?
Torn And Dirty
It was a struggle to get Gina out of the dress. Sadly, it did not end well for Tracey: “It was all for not as she managed to scratch her way through the back of the dress and completely destroy the sheer material.”
It Was Ruined
“She burst the side zipper of the dress and got a dirty footprint on the train,” Tracey described the damage. We cannot blame her for how upset she was after this. She asked Gina what she was doing.
At A Loss For Words
We are not at all surprised to hear that it was hard for Tracey to speak after going through such a thing. She held her head in her hands and held back a scream after noticing what happened to the dress.
A Step Too Far
It was not the first time that Gina gave her grief, but this was way too much. This was simply unthinkable for her. Now, what kind of reason did Gina give her? Read on to find out what she had to tell Tracey.
Making Sure It Fits
Of course, Tracey was furious about what just happened. “She responded that she was just trying to make sure the dress would fit me; because if the dress fit her, then it absolutely fit me too,” she said.
This Wasn’t An Excuse
“If it didn’t fit her, then I obviously had some work to do,” Tracey narrated. Clearly, the younger woman had already tried it on. Obviously, it was perfect for her. But what did Rick think of all of this?
Feeling Very Disturbed
It was a good thing that she was not the only one to feel “very disturbed” by this. Rick could not believe his mom’s behavior. Tracey said, “Mostly because I doubt she was trying to just try on the dress for fun…”
“There was also a bouquet of dried flowers on the bed that wasn’t there before,” Tracey explained, “I think [she] was actually trying to pretend she was the bride… which for so many reasons, is so wrong.”
Covering The Repairs
Tracey said that she wanted Gina to help with the repairs the dress needed. However, this did not happen at all. This is already bad enough but just you wait ‘til you hear what the older woman did.
Something Up Her Sleeve
“She hasn’t offered to pay for any of the repairs to the dress. A section of the train is ripped,” Tracey said. “I have no idea how much it’s going to cost until I can get to the seamstress tomorrow.” Even though Gina refused to pay for it, she still had something else in store for Tracey. What could it be?
You would think that Gina would feel even a little remorse for what she just did. However, she did the exact opposite. She told Tracey off and said that it was ridiculous to have paid that much money for it!
Time To Act
“In the meantime, in lieu of an apology, she’s lecturing me on spending so much money on a wedding dress,” Tracey recalled, “Clearly the trouble she had getting into the dress was a sign to get something less dramatic and ostentatious.” It was now time for them to come up with something else.
Hearing From The Public
Outraged by the new update, Tracey came back to Reddit again. She said that she wanted to take legal action against Rick’s mother and wanted to hear what others thought. What did the crowd tell her?
Asking For Compensation
For Tracey, it was only right that she get compensated after what she just went through. She said, “I know it’s just a dress, but this goes beyond the dress.” Many users expressed support for this plan of hers.
Those who did not agree had many things to say about the actions of her future mother-in-law too. Soon enough, the Reddit post began to make rounds. It actually got a lot of reactions and comments!
“This may be a bit scorched earth, but I would personally tell her that either she pays for the repairs, or she is uninvited,” a Redditor said. Others just told her about the disgust they felt for what went down.
Back To Reddit Once More
One person said that what Gina did made them gag. Now, let us see if Tracey managed to get the justice she so deserved. Months of uncertainty later, she went back to Reddit to keep everyone posted.
Went Back On His Word
Tracey told Rick that he should uninvite his own mother to their wedding. Even though he agreed, she later found out that he could not do it. He actually caved and went back on his word. Uh-oh.
Calling It Off
They canceled the wedding but have not broken up. They are trying to make things work. Tracey said, “I want to be able to go the distance with him, but while she is in the picture I just don’t think I can.”
One Last Update
A few months after this, she had something else to tell us. She kept all of the readers up to speed about the Gina situation. Luckily for her, Rick has stayed true to his words and stayed away from his mom.
Checking Up On Him
“My fiance has kept his end of the bargain; he’s had no contact with FMIL,” she informed all of us. “How do I know? I’m religiously checking his accounts.” But what happened after this will shock you.
All Means Necessary
Tracey had something else to say about her relationship with Gina. Apparently, her boyfriend’s mother is still trying to contact her for some reason. Let us find out what lengths she has gone to contact Tracey.
Stalking The Couple
It turns out that Gina calls her in the wee hours, sends her nasty texts, and leaves “nasty notes” at her door. “Fiance and I typically go shopping on Wednesday nights,” Tracey said. “Guess who was waiting for us in the parking lot at 7PM? We didn’t get out of the car after we saw her pacing around the entrance.”
But can you imagine being told how to dress based on your weight? This story began when a bride made a post for all the guests she invited to her Hawaii destination wedding. It was later put up on Reddit
It is pretty common for a bride to give her guests instructions and suggestions for the wedding. But can you believe that she asked the guests to spend thousands of bucks on their clothes? That is too much!
A Real Bridezilla
Many brides give out specific colors or dresses for the bridesmaids on the wedding party. The ladies might not like them, but they are often more interested in keeping the bride as happy as possible.
However, this is more than just a story of people forced to wear a dress they did not like. No, the bride in question made a complete dress code for every single person who would be at the wedding!
For Visual Purposes
It started innocently enough. She started out by greeting everyone and asking, “Who’s ready for Hawaii 2019?” After this, she said she had something to tell them even though it was a year and a half away.
The bride went on to tell them that she was doing this so that they had time to “find and pick out something nice.” The specific dress code was in place because she wanted an “incredible visual effect” during the “synchronized dance.
If you thought that telling them what to wear for the wedding is already quit weird, you should wait until you hear to rest of the story. The oddest thing about the dress code was how she went about it.
She actually split the dress code into 5 categories. She had categories for ladies weighing 100 to 160 lbs, ladies weighing over 160 pounds, guys weighing 100 to 200 lbs, guys weighing over 200 lbs, and kids. It was unusual to be so strict about the wedding attire, but it was even more bizarre to do so by weight.
Suede & Velvet Only
Interesting, right? The ladies weighing 100 to 160 lbs were told to wear orange suede pants, a velvet green sweater, and Louboutin heels. The shoes cost $700 a pair! The bride also said to get it in red since “the effect will amaze you” when it is time to “spin and lift.”
We know that it is hard to fathom this, but there is more. She asked them to put on a scarf to complete the look. In particular, they were asked to don a Burberry cashmere scarf that costs hundreds of dollars.
But what about the guys? It turns out that the men who weighed 100 to 200 pounds were asked to wear something just as strange. At the very least, it would not cost as much as the first outfit did.
They were told to put on a purple fuzzy jacket, white sneakers, and a soda hat. On top of that, the bride asked those in this category not to forget to bring “plain glow sticks.” What was going on here?
Decked Out In Black
Let us move on to the next one. The ladies weighing over 160 pounds should keep it simple and only wear black. In particular, she told them to wear a black sweater and pants of “any material.”
They were asked to don black heels as well. Which one do you think is more offensive – the fact that she made a new category for those over 160 pounds or that she told them to wear nothing but black?
Camouflage For You
If you wanted to know the full extent of her madness, keep reading. There are even more weird dress codes. Can you believe it? Let us see what she asked the guys weighing more than 200 pounds to wear.
For one reason or another, she told the people in this category to go to the wedding in camouflage. They were also meant to pair it with a pair of black sneakers. Now, why would she tell them to do this?
Even the kids did not get exempted from her and her silly rules. The children attending the wedding were asked to wear red. Her specific words were that the outfits should be “red from head to toe.”
She told the guests that the kids will “form the shape of a heart” at one point during the synchronized dance. For this reason, the ensembles “need to be true red, not blood orange.” How interesting.
This dress code is not the full extent of the madness of this bridezilla. She wanted the guests to not only wear the “required” attire but also bring “formal attire” clothes to change into after the dance.
While she did not give out specific instructions for this part, she did not forget to tell everything that it was going to be at an “extremely upscale.” She reminded the guests to be at their “absolute best.”
We know it is easy to assume that the whole dress code fiasco is just a joke, although you only need to see the end of her message to dispel any such thoughts. She was very serious.
This bride told the guests, “If you look like trash, so will we”. After that, she told them how much to spend on their clothes: “at least $1,000.” She then said, “This wedding is 24k themed for a reason.”
We are not surprised to hear that the bride realized how overwhelming all of this must be for the guests. I mean, people do not have that much money to spend on a regular basis. It was too much.
This was why she told them all that they still had a “year and a half to get working.” She said they had no excuse not to abide her dress code guidelines. Would people even go after hearing about her rules?
The person who posted it on Reddit was definitely a brave person. The bride wanted it to stay in their immediate circle. However, it was just too good not to post it on the internet. It even went viral!
The post soon got more than ten thousand shares. Apart from this, it got thousands of Reddit comments. The bride was dragged for her “body shaming” and being “self-centered.” Others talked about her rules instead.
The wedding guests definitely had the right to speak up about what she was asking them to do. One guy even went to the effort to show everyone how ridiculous the dress code is. It’s not flattering at all!
We do not blame them for reacting that way. The colors are so random, which is strange since they cost a lot. On top of this, the wedding would be in Hawaii. Who would wear velvet and corduroy over there?
A Sort Of Follow-Up
It did not take long before this bride found out that one of her guests put up her request online. She decided to make another Facebook post for her guests. It was later posted on Reddit as well.
She wrote a passionate note. It said, “I could not be more crushed, betrayed, or saddened…knowing someone went behind my back and made fun of me is one of the worst feelings.” She was not at all happy with the “snitch.” She even told them, “Boy, will you be paying.”
A Polygraph Party?
After this, the bride informed her wedding guests that she wanted to have a “polygraph party” at her place. They would use a “real polygraph test” that she bought for “$99 on Amazon” to find the snitch.
On top of that, she said that anyone who would choose not to come to her little party would be a suspect. She said that those people would be “presumed guilty.”
If you were curious about the polygraph test she got, here you go. She wanted to get the best one for this very important case she had to crack. A cheap one was simply not going to cut.
Anyway, you should remember that polygraphs have yet to be proven that they work. At any rate, a polygraph party sure sounds like it can be very fun. It is going to be very memorable.
In yet another post, she said that she did not mind if some of the guests felt unhappy about the dress code.
The bride said that they should have just talked to her. The dance is not the only option they had. She said the guests could help “clean up after dinner” or “contribute to the honeymoon”. After all, “anything counts.”
Not Having It
This was the last straw for some of her guests. One even wrote this comment to give the bride a piece of their mind. After that, they turned down the invitation to the destination wedding.
We can imagine why someone would do such a thing. We are sure we would have done the same thing. How much more ridiculous can you get? The dress code and expenses were already too much, but asking them to help out with cleanup was too much.
It is no wonder that people had many things to say about it. Almost none of them was positive, at any rate. The original post got so many comments because everyone wanted to chime in and comment.
Some even expressed their doubts about the authenticity of the story. They said it sounded far-fetched. However, it is a true story. A lot of commenters felt mad about how she discriminated based on weight.
It is not news that Redditors have plenty of free time. One of them tried to show others what the color scheme would look like. The mock-up they created proves the point they wanted to deliver.
The diagram can speak for itself, thank you very much. There are some highlights here, however. Look at the “Pepsi” hat right there. The silly categories she made based on the guests’ weight is a winner as well.
You would be off the mark if you assume that the bride stopped her nonsense sooner or later. She also addressed the folks who made fun of her. Upon learning that her post went viral, she went on a rant.
She tried to justify her actions by saying that she and her fiancé were “certified spiritual healers.” Could it be true? After all, we would have thought such a person would have more dignity and composure.
During her rant, she explained the reasoning for the color scheme. You might assume that logic played a part in it, but it is not true. She said the “black and camouflage outfits” represented the devil. This way, they can “shoo away” this evil entity.
That sure sounds fascinating, doesn’t it? Still, this does not excuse how she asked the heavier people to wear those specific colors. Let us see what other people had to say about this explanation of hers.
The bride needed to work hard if she wanted to dig herself out of that hole. In the end, she only made things worse. Separating the guests was not the end of it. She had a ‘logical’ reason for this, however.
She is the gift that keeps on giving. Everyone wanted to know what came after this. With so much online outrage and ridicule, was the wedding still going to happen? Let us find out the answer to this question.
It was already pretty bad that she came up with the idea to categorize people by their weights. Everyone thought that she went way too far when she compared the devil to the “overweight guests.”
They had no idea if she was trying to demean them, but this was what it looked like. The bride failed to do things correctly. What else was there? This one made everyone look at her differently.
Psychics Desensitization Chamber
For some reason, the bride thought it would be good to say that she met her fiancé at a psychic desensitization chamber. After this, everyone agreed that she was not a regular girl.
On top of that, she also said that this experience made her consider her “traditions and beliefs” for her big day. While understandable, it did not explain everything. Let’s look deeper into the money situation.
She did not only make silly demands, but she asked her guests to spend at least $1,000 for “regular” wedding attire. We have no idea how she tried to justify this in her head. She talked about it in her rant.
The expensive clothes were supposed to “represent the riches” the couple will enjoy in the future. It is not unusual to have symbolism on your big day, but this was just too much to ask for.
To us, it sounds like an awareness problem more than anything else. Incredible, the bride wants the wedding to be perfect. She only wants love and happiness, but she is a little out of touch with the world.
We wish she knew that money doesn’t grow on trees. She went overboard by asking people to spend a lot of money on her wedding. The guests already needed to pay for flights in and out of Hawaii!
All of this speculation raises a pressing question. What will the wedding be like? We suppose that the only thing we can do is wait. We wish them the very best, but maybe they should be more considerate.
The bride has to stop acting so entitled. It is just not right to force their loved ones to spend that much money. A tiny wedding party is guaranteed if she continues to act this way. No “perfect wedding” for her!